You've got to be taught before it's too late,
Before you are six or seven or eight,
To hate all the people your relatives hate,
You've got to be carefully taught.
Before you are six or seven or eight,
To hate all the people your relatives hate,
You've got to be carefully taught.
--Lt. Joe Cable, South
Pacific
I learned to be a racist when I was eight years old.
When I was a kid, the Oakland A’s were everything. I could not remember a time when they weren’t
winning the World Series. I could
rattle off the names of every player in every position…Sal Bando, Campy
Campaneris, Vida Blue, Catfish Hunter, Rollie Fingers, Billy North, Dick Green,
Gene Tenace. I don’t think I understood
the concept of replay back then, so in my mind Reggie Jackson was always
hitting home runs, and Joe Rudi was always robbing them from other players with
spectacular leaping catches at the wall.
Always.
My best friend Vincie and I would play baseball together
with a beat-up wooden bat and a tennis ball.
We would be the A’s, competing against an invisible Other Team. The Other Team didn’t have a name, because in
our minds, no other team really mattered.
The A’s would always crush the Other Team with massive moon-shots to left
field and brilliant defense. I can say
with all modesty that Vincie and I played dozens, perhaps hundreds of games,
and finished our careers undefeated.
The way we saw it, the only other thing happening in the
baseball world at that time had to do with some guy named Hank Aaron. Even though Hank Aaron was not an Athletic
(it wasn’t until I was much older that I figured out that the “A” in A’s
actually stood for something) Vincie and I were aware of him, because at the start
of the season of ’74, Hank Aaron was one home run shy of the all-time
record. The excitement in the country
had reached flood stage, overflowed its banks, and inundated every corner of
the country before finally trickling through the gutters of Chickie Street
where I grew up.
I remember talking about
Hank Aaron with Vincie. I expected him
to mirror the enthusiasm I had observed in my older brothers and their friends,
but he didn’t.
“My dad doesn’t want it to happen,” he said. “He doesn’t want a (black man) to break a
white man’s record.”
I don’t know how, but I knew the word he used for “black
man” was a very bad word. Yet here was
my best friend throwing it out casually, like a warm-up toss before a baseball game. It
never occurred to me that the record Hank Aaron was about to break had been set by another man. Babe Ruth was a pudgy guy with a face that
looked like a depressed Gerber baby, but the most important fact about him in
Vincie’s mind, other than that he could hit home runs, was that he was white. A lesson had been planted in my young heart,
a lesson that said a black man was not worthy of a white man’s record. That many of our Oakland A’s heroes--heroes we
not only admired but often pretended to be--were black, was an irony that was
lost on both of us.
Of course, Hank Aaron paid no attention to Vincie’s dad. He first tied the record, then, on April 8,
1974, broke it. I remember watching it
happen at my brothers’ friend’s house. As the ball sailed over the wall and one fan
tried to snare the priceless sphere with a fishing net, the room erupted in
cheers. I alone remained silent,
conflicted.
Fortunately for me, and unlike Vincie and Lieutenant Cable, I
grew up in a home where seeds like that failed to thrive. The word Vincie had used was a word I would never
hear in my house. I never heard my father say a disparaging comment about someone simply because of the
color of their skin, and I never heard him tell a racist joke.
But it wasn’t just the things my father didn’t do. My sister, eight months older than me, was
adopted. My mother and father say they
saw her picture--an infant with sad, almond-shaped eyes, her chubby face framed
by a black pixie cut--and immediately fell in love. They knew in an instant that this little girl
from a Hong Kong orphanage was their daughter.
When I was a young teen, they told me that extended family protested, asking “isn’t there a white baby you can
adopt?” My mom and dad ignored them.
Another lesson came when I was in high school and sang bass
in the choir’s barber shop quartet. I
was surprised to learn that my reserved, mechanical engineer dad sang baritone in
one when he was a young man. He said he
had even considered joining a national society of barbershop singers, but
rejected the idea after he learned they would not allow black people into their
organization. He didn’t say it
boastfully. He didn’t point out that he
made this little stand several years before the Civil Rights movement started
to gain national attention. He just said
it, because it was true. These are
lessons that were also planted deep in my heart; finding purchase, taking root,
and crowding out the one placed there by my best friend in 1974.
While I am grateful to have had parents who would teach me
these lessons, I am also uncomfortable with how easily my eight-year-old heart
was molded by a friend’s offhand remark.
While racism appalls me now, I must also recognize that I once started
on that path, even if I never got too far past the trailhead. I realize that even now, seeds of arrogance
and ignorance and fear are constantly being sown, and I have a responsibility
to be vigilant, to weed out evil and lies, and nurture charity and truth.
Bigotry has “got to
be carefully taught” as Joe Cable self-loathingly sings. The good news is that tolerance, respect and compassion
can also be taught. We, as adults, need to pass those lessons down to the next generation. We need more people
like my dad.
I, for one, choose to be one of them.
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